06.28 Date Night Do’s and Dont’s: The Date Jar

Date Night Dos [and Don'ts] is a monthly blog feature dishing up tips and tricks on keeping the romance fun and saucy in your relationship, from five months to five years!

Hey ladies! It’s me again!

So, have you all had time to think about planning your own Date Night once a week? Or at LEAST once a month?

Yes?? Oh, good!

That’s the first step.

Now, I know that sometimes the hardest part of dating is thinking up fun, creative, and original things to do on your date nights (instead of, ‘Wanna just go to Outback again?’) … which is where I will help you out a little with a brilliant idea that a couple I know invented. The Date Jar.

You know when you hear about a new fabulous restaurant opening and think, “Mmm, that sounds lovely, I’d like to go there sometime!” or a friend of yours tells you about her fabulous experience watching a burlesque show at the Can Can, or your great aunt Mildred regales you with tales of her weekend of scooter and kayak adventures on the San Juan islands?

You know how you always say, “I’d love to try that!” but then when it comes time to think up something to do on Friday night, your mind draws a blank?

DATE JAR TO THE RESCUE!

Get together with your sweetie, and come up with a list of things you both wanted to try (and add to it as things pop up in conversation, or you read about it on Daily Candy, or GPH!): local area restaurants, movies to go see or rent, events to hit up, attractions to visit, firsts to experience together … Put these ideas on little scraps of paper. These scraps go into a cute little jar, and are saved for a rainy day.

When Date Night rolls around, you simply draw an idea from the jar. You don’t like the idea you drew? Well, the rule is you HAVE to do it! … but if, say, your date involves planting an herb-garden outside, yet it’s pouring down rain, well, i think that gives you liberty to draw again.

I’ve provided you with a sample list i found on About.com to get you started. Take some or all of these as your starter dates, and, as a new restaurant opens that you want to try, or you hear of a fun new massage parlor in town that’s open late night, a local burlesque show opens up down the street, or your sweet pea mentions their love for Opera… throw it in the jar, and ENJOY!

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1. Pick up the ingredients you need to create a fabulous meal at the grocery store and then return home and cook it together. (Or recreate the show ‘Chopped’ with 3 randomly chosen ingredients!)

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2. Throw a slumber party for two. Have dinner in bed and have each other for dessert.

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3. Plan a movie night. Rent a flick that you’ll both enjoy, make popcorn, and get cozy under the blanket on the couch.

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4. Hike Mount Si (or baby Si, if that’s less daunting!)

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5. Get ice cream at Molly Moon’s.

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6. Sneak into a local hotel for a dip in the pool! (Or ask them at the front desk if you can pay to use it.)

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7. Go to a theme park and clutch each other on the scary rides.

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8. Perform a duet at a karaoke bar. (Cruisin’ is always a great duet!)

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9. If you’re adventure seekers, you can go skydiving together.

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10. Head to the zoo or a museum. Stroll through the exhibits, hold hands, and people watch!

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11. Miniature Golf at Interbay.

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12. Take a sculpting or drawing class together. Or go to one of those stores where you can paint pottery. Your art will give your beloved a new window into your personality.

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13. Roller skating, bowling, pool, or the arcade are always great for some old-fashioned fun and friendly competition.

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14. Take a road trip to the city if you live in the country or to the country if you live in the city. See how the other half lives.

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15. Fill up a picnic basket with goodies – bread, wine, cheese, fruit. Go to the park and share your feast with one another. Don’t forget your picnic blanket.

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16. Paint Party!

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17. Shoot each other – at your nearby paint ball or laser tag facility.

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18. Glide at the nearest ice skating rink.

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19. Camp out and kiss under the stars. Roast marshmallows to boot. If you are not the outdoor types, head to the planetarium for safer star gazing.

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20. Wine. Tasting.

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21. Volunteer for a worthy cause together. Visit the ill, organize a fundraiser for a non-profit, or work at a shelter. You’ll spend time with each other, but you’ll also make a difference and help others.

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22. Try your luck at a casino.

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23. Think outside the box and go out for a romantic breakfast instead of dinner.

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24. Try your eye at shooting at your local gun range!

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25. Hit up the Fremont Sunday Market with $10 to spend on each other. Surprise them with their gifts at lunch at Red Door.

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Mandy Hoover

Mandy Hoover writes the monthly blog feature Date Night Dos [and Dont's], sharing tips and tricks on keeping the romance fun and saucy in your relationship, from five months to five years. Mandy is co-author of the local blog Seattle Date Night, where she and Australian fiance Brett document their weekly Date Nights around Seattle. They love to discover new places to dine and fun things to do - and share their experiences with the world - the good, the bad, and the ugly!

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Comments

  1. Kristin Price
    07.03.2010

    Great post with some fabulous ideas! Thanks Mandy!

  2. Zong
    07.05.2010

    Hey Mandy! I love the Jar idea! I started making my jar yesterday!

  3. Meena Mathis
    07.08.2010

    These are great ideas, just what i’ve been searching for!

  4. Jaszy
    02.07.2011

    Loved the idea of the date jar.

    And I would definitely borrow some of the ideas you threw into it, on top of our own.
    Though whenever in bed or on the couch, there are some things that me and him would love to do, but as you said, when the weekend is right there, we end up doing the same old stuff, wake up late, go to the restaurant, do some shopping and a movie and that’s it, No Fun, probably we got so used to that, that it already became a routine.

    Though I do hope that this way won’t turn the weekend into a must-to-do list and create the illusion of work on the weekends.
    Plus I think that the date jar brings more excitement in women than men.
    I can already imagine him after doing it twice or three times saying: Babe, let’s just put aside the jar for this weekend.

    Well every positive thing has downsides, anyways as I said I would give it a shoot.

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